In defense of “mandatory fun”

I rang up my highest-performing LinkedIn post recently, commenting my own opinions on Wall Street Journal’s article “You’re good at your job, but are you fun enough?”

Here’s that post. What do you think?

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When it's done right, "mandatory fun" doesn't feel mandatory at all. It can be glue that cements relationships, building happier, more engaged teams.

But not everyone wants the same things. We must accommodate for our team's diverse preferences.

Some people like a party. Others like quiet one-on-one time.

Some can't get enough of socializing. For others, a little goes a long way.

Some have personal needs that conflict with socializing - health issues, family obligations, anxiety, or just a packed schedule.

During the pandemic, my team made it a point to get together every month or two.

We quickly learned to mix it up.
1) Work hours are best for some. After work is better for others.
2) Have the spouses/significant others join occasionally.
3) Bring in another team you work closely with
4) Mix up your venues. Some people are very uncomfortable at bars. Others don't like loud rooms.
5) Try some activity-based events. Some people connect better over common tasks or games.

I also suggest to keep up a consistent schedule, and actively seek feedback.

Consistency's benefits:
1) Avoids FOMO when folks can't make it
2) Creates freedom to skip unappealing events
3) Enables people to "catch you next time" when they're not feeling up to it
4) Makes it feel less mandatory

Seeking feedback benefits:
1) Tailor events to your team's liking
2) Helps mix things up so there's something that works for everyone
3) Creates ownership and buy-in
4) Makes people feel included and seen.

If your team is groaning over "mandatory fun", start with feedback, mix it up to find something that works, and make it consistent. I think you'll see results.